So Your Loved One Said, “I’m Gay”

Your spouse, friend, or family member has just told you he or she is attracted to the same sex. What are you to think? What are you to say?

The choices of those close to us impact us greatly. It can be especially challenging when a loved one says, “I’m gay.”

Alive in Christ offers two monthly support groups for Christian men and women impacted by the same-sex attraction of a loved one: one in Boston and one in East Taunton. These groups are safe places to process your questions. Please contact us for details.

If you haven’t thought much about homosexuality before, if it has always been a foreign topic, then “being gay” and “struggling with same-sex attraction” may sound the same to you. Ask questions, and be slow to speak. It is important to listen to your family member to understand what this revelation means. Is your loved one embracing a gay identity? Or does your loved one look upon same-sex attraction as any other temptation that Christians must resist? Is your loved one a Christian believer?

If your loved one identifies as gay, you may find these links helpful.

If your loved one agrees with a biblical view of human sexuality, point them to our resources for those who struggle with same-sex attraction.